Swingers club etiquette and rules

Updated 13 November 2026

Every club posts its house rules. These are the ones that hold everywhere.

1. Ask before you touch. Every time, with every person, even when you were invited a minute ago.
2. No means no, and so does silence. A shake of the head ends it. Nobody owes a reason.
3. Closed doors and curtains are private. Knock or wait. An open door means watching is welcome, joining is by invitation.
4. No photos, no phones in the play areas. Taking a picture gets you thrown out of almost any club.
5. Couples decide together. If one of a couple says no, the answer is no.
6. Protection is expected. Most clubs put condoms in every room. Use them.
7. Shower before play areas and after. Towels are there for that.
8. Go easy at the bar. Staff remove drunk guests, and other guests stay away from them.
9. Single men: follow the club's lead. Many clubs cap the number of single men or keep them to certain nights. Be patient and polite, never pushy.
10. What you see stays inside. Never name or describe other guests outside the club.

Saying no

"No thank you, we are just watching" works everywhere. A smile helps. If someone does not take the answer, tell the staff. A good club acts at once, and the reviews in this atlas often say which clubs do.